This is a phase

As the mom of a teenager, there were many a days I wanted to tear my hair out, to throw in the towel, to leave the country, planet and never return.

I’ve had instances where I would wonder how long I would have to deal with this boy child of mine who was struggling to find himself.

Earlier today, the town I lived in experienced a sudden thunderstorm. The sun in an instant had disappeared; the winds began howling; trees began making obeisance to the earth. It felt as though all the water was being released from the heavens in an attempt to cause a flash flood. Even the lights in my home began flickering on and off. The entire place felt eerie.

When the storm ceased, I went outside to see if any damage had occurred and happened to meet upon the neighbor who lived on the right side of my house, Dean.

We both stood looking across the street and saw where my neighbor’s tree had lost many of its limbs. Apparently the wind had caused the tree in front of Donna’s home to decide today was the day to get rid of unnecessary baggage.🤪

Usually, Donna is home with her car parked in her driveway. Thankfully today, she was away and so her car was spared damage. If you look a bit closer at the pictures, you will see where the limbs fell just a few feet shy of her home. Any closer and she would have been dealing with structural damage.

The Lord spared her life, her car and her home.

Dean and I discussed what transpired on Donna’s property, and how thankful we were that further damage did not occur.

He went into immediate action mode. He made plans to get his chainsaw so that he could remove the debris before Donna returned home. He shared that she was a single mom whose son was away at Georgia Tech and so she would have no help to remove the fallen limbs and branches.

Talk about neighborly love. (I interject here to say that my neighbor who had the mishap is a single, African American woman. Dean is a Caucasian male, and also happens to be a police officer. Racism exists, but not everywhere. While we despise the injustice and the hatred caused by sin, let us celebrate the love and compassion we see exemplified by others).

Upon returning inside my home to head back to work, I began sharing with my mom the conversation I had with Dean. My son walked in the room, overheard our conversation and said nothing.

“Count it all joy, my brothers, when you meet trials of various kinds, for you know that the testing of your faith produces steadfastness…Blessed is the man who remains steadfast under trial, for when he has stood the test he will receive the crown of life, which God has promised to those who love him.” James 1: 2-3, 12

At the end of my work shift, as I made my way past the front door heading towards the kitchen, (my home office is in the basement), I saw my son’s bed slippers positioned at the front door. Immediately my mind went into questioning mode. Where was Zach? Why was he outside during “corona time?” And more specifically, why had he left the house without a word?

I noticed the front door was unlocked and so opened the door to see if he could be located. My eyes immediately found themselves looking across the road and lo and behold, there was my son helping Dean remove the fallen limbs.

To say I was shocked, was an understatement.

I felt a surge of delight and pride flooding the very cores of my soul.

I found myself praising Abba for the gift of His child who took the initiative to leave the comforts of his room in order to go outside and help someone else.

The Lord reminded me of something my adopted mom shared with me during the early teenage years of Zach when he would drive me constantly up the wall.

“Dee, this is a phase.”

Time after time she would assure me that Zach was going through a phase and he would come out of it a responsible and mature man. Today, I saw a glimpse of this.

As parents, we never know what our children will be once they have left the childhood and teenage phase. We seldom get glimpses of their character development until years down the road. Many times, we feel to throw in the towel and walk away. Countless times, we may want to give in and to certainly give up.

Hang in there.

Like the storm that came, caused mayhem and left evidence of its presence; it eventually left.

Storms do not last forever, and neither does trouble, pain, problems, suffering etc – they are just phases.

“…Weeping may endure for a night, but joy comes in the morning.” Psalms 30:5

Donna was able to park in her driveway and not worry about any debris.

“And we know that for those who love God all things work together for good, for those who are called according to his purpose.” Romans 8:28

Can you recall a torrential season in your life where you stuck through it, survived and today can celebrate the fact that you endured?

PS: The sun did return after being hidden behind the clouds. In fact, the sun had never left, the clouds just obstructed its view 🤗



96 thoughts on “This is a phase

  1. I just love this. How God protected her home, car and what a wonderful neighbour Dean who helped out. I was reminded of our neighbour and a very dear friend, a Caucasian man who is a detective, who is absolutely wonderful.

    Reading about your son helping out made me feel proud, as a mum to a 15yr old , I know the pain to get them to do anything out of their own accord is a massive task.
    Blessings Dee 😊💙

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    1. God is good! My heart sings praises to Him this morning.

      I love how the Lord protected Donna. This morning as I read your comment I reflect on the many ways He protects us and intervene in our lives without us even knowing. Thank You Lord!

      Kudos to your neighbor- there are good neighbors next door 😉

      Ah, as for the son, whew, that’s a different story lol. The Lord is faithful to our boys 🙏🏽

      Blessings to you as well, Manu ❤️🤗

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  2. Oh precious girl, I love this post so much. Yay Zac for pitching in! I’m dealing with almost 3 teens and a ten year who acts like one.🙄This encourages me that this phase won’t last… will pass!🤗

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    1. Aww, it will pass, Viv. 🤗
      3.5 teens??? You’re a trooper for sure. May the Lord continue to grant you strength, endurance, patience, joy and resilience lol. Our babies are gifts and inheritances from Abba, though many times, the packages look crumpled 🤣😂

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      1. We are recovering at different speeds depending on how much damaged we had. Some people were so damaged it breaks my heart. I drive by their homes on the way shopping and sigh. Thankfully, the Lord hears our groaning. Thanks for asking. 😊

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        1. Oh my! I cannot imagine. I would sigh too.

          I’m thankful the Lord does hear our groaning. I know I make quite a few too.

          May the Lord continue to add comfort, give provision, and bring healing to all in need 🤗🙏🏽

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          1. Thank you! Our communities need all the comfort, provision and healing the Lord has in store for us. This has been one tough year. A virus, a flood and now civil unrest. God help us!

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                1. Thank you! 🙂Angel loved Thumbelina for some reason when she was little, so my hubby told her I’m surprised you don’t name her that, as much as you loved her. It got her wheels spinning…hence Lena and Renae for her Nonna. 🙂

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  3. Soooo very beautiful!! I also have a teen kiddo (daughter) who can be quite a struggle yet there are times I’m blown away by her random acts of kindness!❤️🙏
    What an inspiring post today❤️thanks for sharing!!

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    1. Aww, those random acts of kindness certainly provide us with hope to keep pressing in with love.

      I’m glad you were inspired, beloved. Thank you for interacting with me today ❤️

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  4. This got me so teary. Especially the relief you must have felt when you saw your son helping out. We can definitely become hyper focused on those negatives and miss the abundance of positives still around us. For too long I have believed that I am stuck. Today, I feel as if I may be starting to get the whole resting thing, and the belief that storms do pass is rising. Thanks so much for sharing. I needed this confirmation and the good tears. ❤

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    1. Oh my scribbler, let me offer you a huuuuge hug 🤗🤗🤗

      It can be easy to miss the abundance of positivity around us. I think it’s a tactic of the enemy to get us to take our eyes off the things that are good, noble, honest etc. He loves when we forget to count our blessings and lose sight of ABBA’s grace in our lives. There is a old proverb I grew up hearing, “every long prayer has an amen.”

      I’m thankful the Lord is able to comforting you through His peace and has reminded you that even the worst storms have an expiration date.

      You and Andrew will remain faithfully in my prayers ❤️❤️

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      1. Thank you so much! I do love those hugs, and “every long prayer has an amen.” is such a great proverb. Thank you for sharing that and loving like Jesus. I much appreciate those prayers as well. Your name is written down in my prayer journal as it is written in the Lord’s book! So you have my prayers as well dear sister. Keep on keepin’ on in His loving arms. ❤ ❤ ❤

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        1. Aww, I’m glad you love hugs for I love to give them 🤗🤗

          Thank you for keeping me in the journal, I appreciate prayers more than anything else.

          My love to you always ❤️❤️❤️

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    1. Valerie, it’s been ages. How have you been sis?

      Thank you. The Lord knows how to weave the various fabrics of our lives so well. I’m thankful. 😊

      Yes, I’m so impressed and very much convicted too by Dean’s immediate position of action. May the Lord truly reward his kindness.

      God is soooooo good 👊🏽

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  5. I loved this post. I believe there is no race besides the human race, which has good people and not so good people all in various shades. Thanks for shining the light on some good out there. God bless you, your son and your neighbors. I especially liked this phrase ” the sun had never left, the clouds just obstructed its view” Love in Christ sister, ❤ Donna 🙂

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    1. Hello my sister Donna, thanks for stopping by today. Yes oh yes, I agree with you 100 percent. The only race is the human race and the only race worth running, is the one with Christ 😉

      It’s amazing isn’t it, the sun never left. Even when night falls and it feels like it’s darker than usual, the sun still remains in the sky. The change is the earth rotating – the sun continues to hold its position, just like our Lord who remains immovable and always abounding.

      May the Lord bless and keep you my sister. May He make His face to shine upon you. May He lift His countenance upon you and be gracious unto you. And may He wrap you in His Shalom 🙏🏽❤️

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      1. Thank you. I receive that in Jesus name. ♡ May His favor be upon you as you continue in His work. May He continue to hold you close to His side.
        Keep speaking truth sister. I love your heart. Truly, your kind response has brought tears to my eyes. ♡♡♡

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  6. “Can you recall a torrential season in your life where you stuck through it, survived and today can celebrate the fact that you endured?” Heh heh. Yep 🙂

    All kidding aside as a parent to two lovely grown daughters I can fully empathize and understand your position. As our kids grow into the people God intends them to be we never know what path they will take. There is mystery, surprise and anguish but if we release them to the Father we can be at peace letting them grow into their own. Like you, I wondered at times about my own daughters but they have turned into beautiful young women. You have an amazing son with a lovely mother so I am sure Zach is going to be an amazing man.

    On a side note I have discovered late in life that we can never truly know our children for the relationship we have with them causes them to behave differently around us than with others. I just watched 2 7 year old twin girls and saw this in action again. They were one way with us and very different with their mom. I think familiarity has a lot to do with this. So this got me to thinking and now I realize that if I really want to know who my daughters are I have to talk with people they encounter. I have learned incredible things this way and have been immensely humbled.

    So when God talks to others we have had encounters with will they testify that we are indeed sons and daughters of our Heavenly Father or will they see us as sons and daughters of another father? Interesting question.

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    1. Homer and Wanda, you’ve been faithfully in my prayers 🤗, but judging from my silence, you would never even know…😞

      You’re spot on, our children do behave differently in front of others vs us. When Zach was younger I often felt the teachers spoke of another child – not my own.

      I’m thankful that you’ve reminded me today that our children must be entrusted to our Lord – in every single area. Hallelujah for the transformation of your caterpillars into beautiful butterflies too 🙌🏽

      As for your question, it is quite sobering and worth us locking it in our hearts. May we live in such a way that duplicity is never named among us. May we reflect our Father not just when we stand in His mirror or walk in His shadow, but always, especially in front of those whose hearts are parched, for the love of Christ.

      ABBA’s blessings to you always ❤️🙏🏽

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  7. Way to go Zach! It’s such a blessing that you all can come together to help one another. Many times nowadays people don’t even know their neighbors. Great post little sister. ❤️

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    1. Aww, way to go, Zach! Thank you.

      The Lord is so amazing. Remember how I shared with you yesterday there was no post….the Lord was able to create one just – like – that lol. He’s definitely the only One worthy of the title, Creator 🙌🏽

      Yes, sadly this is true. May we be friendly to those around, big sis. We need community.

      Love you ❤️

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      1. He is so amazing!!! He will give us words to say for sure. These words He gave you are beautiful. Thanks for sharing! There are loving people out there all around us. Love you too!!!❤️

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  8. Blessed words, D! And such God given perspective: “it’s just a phase”. A phrase I have used many times in my life.

    God bless Zach’s heart, the same heart that lies in God’s safe hands. 🥰

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    1. Indeed it is a God given perspective, sis. We are reminded that in the Lord, only few things are eternal🙌🏽

      Such comfort to a mamma’s heart – your last sentence. Thank you, Tosin ❤️


  9. Wow. I can imagine the flush and the emotions you must have felt when you saw him helping out. I also, reading this, got a bit emotional.

    God is always good. And yes sis “He is getting there, just a little while longer”.
    And you will celebrate the phases you have had with him. Cos we are made through it all.

    My regards to Dean too. He is a blessed soul. And your son too for being graceful men. 😊

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    1. Oh Mercy, you know how to leave such heartfelt comments – I appreciate them so much.

      God is so so so good. I’m thinking of that song, “Jesus, you love me too much oh, excess love oh” 🙌🏽🙌🏽

      I agree, Dean is a blessed man indeed. May the Lord continue to richly bless him, his family, and my sister Mercy 🤗🤗

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      1. Smiles. Thanks to God sis. And glad to. 🤗
        You are always welcome. ❤

        Yeah!!!. Now I can relate with the message on the song. 😊
        Too much love He’s got for us. 💃

        Smiles. Yes, he is. Amen!.
        Aww. Amen. Thanks big sis. 🤗

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  10. Hi Deandra, found your blog via someone else’s . I am thankful. Your story comes at the perfect time in history unraveling. Shared it on Facebook, praying those with hardened hearts hear God here. Please know I was blessed with hope here this morning. Love in Christ, Julie

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    1. Hi Julie,

      It’s so great to meet your acquaintance today ☺️

      Thank you for interacting with me and sharing the hope of Christ to those in your circle.

      Yes and amen, may the Lord indeed continue to soften each and every one of our hearts to His truth via His love.

      Blessings to you always, beloved sister.


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  11. Awe…Dee, your Zach has a good heart!….He gets it from his mom. 🙂 This post made me smile! It’s so good to know there are good samaritans everywhere, like your neighbor and your son. Hope you are doing well these days! 💜

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    1. Oh Renee, you’re making this mama’s heart gush with delight. All glory be to the Most High God. From Him comes all the credit. 🙌🏽

      Yes sister! I’m so thankful for the good Samaritans around. They remind us to keep our hope in Jesus blazing.

      All is well over here. How about on your end? How’s the immediate and extended family?

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      1. Rightfully so! His actions are to be praised! 😀 God definitely gets the main credit, but moma, deserves recognition, too! Cusps! 🙌🏼😇
        Yes, so glad for the Hope that still blazes in humanity!
        I’m glad to hear you and yours are well. We are blessed. Staying busy. 😛

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  12. True, True, True!
    Just as we have the four seasons of summer, winter, fall, and spring, we (and our children) also go through phases. Recognizing those phases is critical else we struggle with what God is doing.
    Also, storms don’t last, strong people do. Strong people are not strong of and in themselves, but for God who made them so. Certainly, good still abound. The little foxes that spoil the vines, make everyone be grouped as bad because of the bad decision of one person.
    I also want to agree that the hand of God moved the tree to fall at the time and where it did (my paraphrase).
    Thanks for sharing. Thanks also for liking my comment on Mrs. T’s Corner, A Beautiful Necessary Distraction.

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    1. So many rich points you have shared certainly leaves be to ponder deeply. Thank you for leaving your heart prints today, I really appreciate them.

      I’m in full agreement that it behooves us to recognize the phases we enter so that we do not struggle with what the Lord is doing in our lives. So many times we see the fallen trees and focus on the mess it caused instead of zeroing in on how the Lord has removed what obstructed our views. ☺️

      Blessings to you always 🙏🏽

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  13. Don’t you just love it when our children “surprise” us? It makes up for all those times you didn’t think they or you were going to make it! Sounds like you have a great son!

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  14. Oh my goodness words escape me at this moment my dear sister. Your words always reach into my heart and spirit. The tears spilled over as I sat at my desk and read this devotion.
    I thank God for you and for your allowing HIM to use your experience to minister to me. Thank you for sharing the blessings as well as the lesson learnt.

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  15. Aww, bless the Lord forevermore. I’m so touched and honored that the Lord would use me as a conduit to bless His daughter, Fay Ann. I pray that the Lord would speedily answer the dearest prayers of your heart and that He would exceed your expectation of that request. 🙏🏽❤️


  16. I have no reason why I’m thinking about this, but to be a young mother as you have been, it must have been frightening. However, the joy and reward to come from it must be beyond awesomeness.

    You have my respect ma’am 😁

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