“My dearest brothers and sisters, take this to heart: Be quick to listen, but slow to speak. And be slow to become angry.” James 1:19 TPT
Today, Holy Spirit taught me something:
By immediately going into giving advice to folks who share issues they are encountering, I assume the prideful assumption that they never considered what the best option may be for themselves. I also present myself as being smarter and more superior than them.
This means, when someone comes to me with a problem, before I go off on a spiel to tell them what I think, and what they should do (or not do), my posture should be to listen and when appropriate, ask questions.
- Do you need my input?
- Have you thought about such and such?
- Are you sharing because you need advice?
- How can I help?
These are just a few questions that encourage the party to think, and certainly remind me never to assume I know it all, for the truth is, I certainly don’t 😉
#thoughtfulthursday
PS: The above is part 1 of a series of brief thoughts that will be shared each Thursday until…
Good points to listen and ask if they are seeking advice at all. I used to jump to giving advice when I was younger but I remember one of the ladies I knew then used to always listen and ask the other person quite a few questions before giving any sort of advice at all and only when they asked for it. That is something I learnt from her.
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Yes gurl 🤛🏽, seeing this response by others have always left me humbled. The questions asked, their tones, their responses – the whole shebang! May the Lord certainly help us to be great listeners.
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You are a great listener. ❤
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Awwww, you’re so sweet, Lydia ❤️
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You’re much sweeter. ❤
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😊☺️😊🌹
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Great tips!
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Thank you! Abba is a great teacher 😌
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Great advice. Thanks!
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My pleasure to share 💕
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Thank you for the Holy Spirit advice! I needed it today. 💗
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Awwww, you’re welcome! I’m so thankful He speaks to us 🤗
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Great word! I especially like what you said about your posture should be one of listening and your questions are so on target when someone wants to talk about a problem. Look forward to more thoughtful insights! 💗
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Thank you sweet friend 💕 May the Lord govern our posture always 🙏🏽
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Great reminder Dee! 💚💚🤗
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Vvvviiiivvvvvvv!!! 🤗🤗
Thank you honey ❤️❤️❤️
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You’re very welcome dear friend and I love you!🤗💚
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And I you right back❤️💕
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🤗💚🤗💚
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I like when you said that it is best to listen. Advice should only be given when it is specifically asked for. 🤗
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Ah, I continue to learn, Sally 🤗❤️
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I have found that, especially with young people, that they welcome advice when they ask for it.
Often we long to give advice, since the solution seems so clear to us, but people generally will only appreciate our advice when they ask.
May our Lord give us the sensitivity to know when to listen, and when to speak.🤗
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Amen!! So so true, Sally. And as a youngish person lol, I’ve found that when I go to an elder who readily gives advice (while I’m still sharing), I’m not likely to go back and share my issues. On the contrary, when I’m asked questions to make me think and ponder and when I’m asked if I need an advice, my posture is different. I find myself more welcoming.
Amen to that prayer dear friend 🙏🏽🤗
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Good point, Dee! We are so quick to want to fix people’s problems, but sometimes, people need someone to really listen and talk it out with them. ♥
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Absolutely, Lily! Sometimes we simply need to just be an ear 💕
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As someone who lives with chronic illness, I can say that I have had TOO MANY offer me the same unsolicited advice over and over again. Someone who listens and prayers for me is golden.
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Hmmmm mm mmm, silence (and prayer) are golden indeed 🤛🏽
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Excellent. Continue.
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🤗❤️
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This is great advice Dee! It’s important to take time to listen to others and not be so quick to speak. By listening more, we can all learn from one another. Looking forward to your Thursday thoughts. 🤗
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Ah my sister, it is of utmost importance. There’s so much to learn from those around. Oh yes, looking forward to those thoughts too. PS: Someone nudged me to begin sharing more nuggets 🤗
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❤️🤗❤️🤗
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💕🤗🤗💕
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Great advice! Asking a lot of questions clears up a lot of confusion fast.
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Ooooo, that’s so so true!
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Wow. Thanks for sharing this big sis. Listening is golden. And so true: sometimes your presence alone is what the “sharer” needs. A listening ear and heart is truly golden. 🤗
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This post is exactly what I needed! We sometimes are too quick to speak and we barely listen to others and that’s problematic.
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Oh yes! That’s very true. I’m learning sometimes closing my beak is the best thing to do.
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Thank you for sharing this informative reminder. Be safe.
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Thank you for reading, Tangie. ABBA’s blessings and protection be yours 🙏🏽
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God equipped mankind with TWO ears and ONE mouth for a reason. Guess the reason why. Your message was short, sweet and received by all. Keep up the good messaging.
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Wonderful observation, Mother Fowler. We must listen twice as much as we speak 🤐
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Great and godly advice, Deandra!
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Thanks Patty! God be praised for the inspiration 🙌🏽
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